fiancé is in california for a week so I’m being super productive but I miss that boy a lot
Q:congrats Kamryn! I am happy for you! you will make such a beautiful certainlittlebride.
:’) oh my gracious, this is the best. Thank you so much, Morgan!
Q:this is super personal and you don't have to answer it, but how do you know yo u're going to be sexually compatible with a person if you marry them without trying it first?
wow, that is super personal. it also seems like a pretty selfish mindset for me to have
Q:so are y'all going to get started on making some certainlittlebabies ;)
Q:Why are you having your wedding so soon? I'm not being judgey, i just want to understand how you can be so sure so fast and so sure it's going to last. Like I don't know how I'm ever going to be able to make that decision in my own life, let alone that fast, so I kind of want to know how other people figure that out.
Making it last won’t be easy. That’s one thing we’re sure about - we’re not going to waltz into married life and know immediately how to do it well. Every day it’s going to be death to self, death to self, death to self, laying down our own lives to serve the other even when they’re not holding up their end of that bargain. We know it’s going to last because we’re going to make sure that it does. I don’t really know how to put it, there just isn’t another option once we take those vows.
For us, we also understand that our marriage is not what gives us hope or what saves us. It’s not what’s going to ultimately fill us. I will not complete Kenneth. He will not complete me. We weren’t made for that. We were made to live in the presence of our God, in reconciliation through Christ Jesus, and that’s what nourishes our souls. I think that takes a lot of pressure off of our marriage, that I’m Kenneth’s match, but not in an eternal sense ;)
As far as why we’re doing it so fast, it’s mainly just personal preference. Like I said before, each couple is different, but shoot. We keep hearing of couples who have been dating for years and have two year engagements, and we just don’t know how they can do it. To us that sounds like hell. Plus, when you add in the thing about trying not to have sex until we’re married, six months sounds a lot easier than a standard engagement period.
Q:How'd you guys know you wanted to marry each other? I feel like I know the guy I'm dating is someone I'd marry, but I feel like he doesn't feel the same.
From our first long conversation, I knew he made me hungry for God. I knew after our first date that I could marry him or someone like him. There was a shift somewhere though, and it’s hard to say exactly when, from “I could see myself marrying you” to “I want to marry you in particular.”
I suppose I could see all kinds of practical ways our marriage would work. Our aspirations, gifts, and plans are very compatible. He’s an ENFJ and I’m an INFP, so our personalities complement one another well. (I had actually half-jokingly prayed only weeks before our first date that I would marry an ENFJ.) I watched him serve his roommates, exhort his peers, lead others well, fight sin, and humble himself again and again. I saw that he was quick to address conflict, quick to apologize, quick to forgive, and quick to repent.
He’s a rough and rowdy person but he’s kind and gentle and patient with me. In short, I fell in love with him.